Kobe Bryant appreciated to inform individuals he did not have time for buddies. Not within the standard method most individuals have buddies during which they speak often or seize a meal after they’re in the identical a part of city.
Ever on model, Bryant even trademarked the slogan, “Buddies cling typically, Banners cling perpetually.”
Pau Gasol heard him say that on a regular basis.
“Yeah, he’d at all times say, ‘I haven’t got time for buddies. I am too busy attaining, being the most effective on the market or attaining greatness. I haven’t got time for the sentimental stuff,'” Gasol mentioned. “He would say that publicly, and there was some fact to that. However … “
Gasol knew the reality.
Beneath all that robust speak was a delicate father to 4 daughters who would at all times be there when Gasol referred to as.
“He is the closest factor to an enormous brother that I’ve had in my life,” Gasol mentioned.
They did not take selfies collectively after they’d meet up for dinner within the later years of their profession, or after Bryant retired from the NBA in 2016. The one hint of simply how shut Bryant and Gasol’s relationship had grown got here largely within the type of #hermano — Spanish for brother — hashtags on Twitter or Instagram.
Gasol did not want the shoutout. He already knew how shut he and Bryant’s friendship was. However he’s proud he received Bryant to open up and present the world that aspect of him.
“You may see his toughness, his grit, his want, his starvation, the Mamba mentality. … However he had a really type, very loving aspect, too.”
Pau Gasol on Kobe Bryant
“You may see his toughness, his grit, his want, his starvation, the Mamba mentality — be the most effective always, work tougher than anybody else,” Gasol mentioned. “However he had a really type, very loving aspect, too.”
Within the latter phases of his profession Bryant began dropping the veil ever so barely and letting the world see what Gasol did.
“I am extra naturally inclined to indicate my softness from a private stage and an emotional stage and I feel that is one thing perhaps I influenced him to in a method, “Gasol mentioned. “I would say, ‘It is okay to be regular or act type and susceptible or delicate at instances. We do not have to be so onerous on a regular basis and be on edge on a regular basis.'”
Matt Barnes did not realize it was Gasol who’d gotten Bryant to open up, however he certain as hell observed when it began taking place.
“I keep in mind one time, we had been on a bus in Phoenix and I requested Kobe, ‘Why does not the remainder of the world get to see how cool you’re, motherf—er?” mentioned Barnes, who performed with Bryant and Gasol from 2010 to ’12. “I actually requested him that query in entrance of everyone. And Kobe was like, ‘I am unable to present these motherf—ers that.’
“I feel that was part of that entire Mamba mentality. However once you received him to place his guard down, or when you had been capable of penetrate the wall, you understand, Kobe was cool as s—. However he needed to allow you to see that aspect.”
It’s nonetheless onerous for Gasol to speak about Bryant’s dying. Point out Jan. 26 and Gasol’s thoughts races again to the second he first heard concerning the helicopter crash that killed the previous Los Angeles Lakers nice, his daughter Gianna and 7 others.
He was in Spain on the time, together with his now-wife, Cat, driving dwelling when her cellphone began getting information alerts and textual content messages.
“You begin getting on this trance the place you are fully frozen,” he mentioned. “You are simply caught in full shock. You possibly can’t consider it. I nonetheless for days, weeks, I nonetheless did not need to consider it.
“You continue to thought that Kobe might have gotten out of that accident by his personal ft and carried his daughter — and if there have been another survivors — with him to the hospital.
“We had that notion of him as that robust, as that invincible. If somebody might have survived it, it was him.”
Gasol mentioned he cried for days, numb and heartbroken and shocked suddenly. However in a short time he knew what he wanted to do.
“We simply booked a flight [to California],” he mentioned. “We determined we would have liked to be there and we left. We did not know if we had been leaving for every week, two weeks or a month, however we would have liked to be there.
“We wished to be near Vanessa and the children and be there, as Uncle Pau, for no matter they wanted.”
Pau Gasol on the times after the helicopter crash
“We wished to be near Vanessa and the children and be there, as Uncle Pau, for no matter they wanted.”
The Gasols stayed close to the Bryants’ dwelling in Orange County for a number of months, checking in on the household usually and attempting to assist them by means of the unthinkable tragedy.
Uncle Pau despatched flowers to Vanessa on what would’ve been the couple’s nineteenth marriage ceremony anniversary in April and a birthday cake on what would’ve been Gianna’s 14th birthday in Could.
The Gasols and Bryants went on a ship journey by means of San Francisco Bay in August and received dressed up as Star Wars characters for Halloween. And when the Gasols’ first baby was born in September, they named her after Gianna.
“My daughter’s full identify is Elisabet Gianna Gasol,” he mentioned. “It is a method, not simply to honor Gianna, however to at all times have them current. They’re our household and during which method can you have got them extra current, than to have it in your daughter’s identify or your son’s?
“We had extra points developing along with her first identify than along with her center identify. It represents a lot, the identify. The kindness, the center that Gianna had, the expertise, simply with the toughness that she confirmed. Her dad and her mother in her, it is one thing that has numerous that means to us, and that is why she’s named Elisabet Gianna.”
Gasol had gone to Gianna Bryant’s basketball video games over time and watched as her expertise blossomed.
“She might have modified ladies’s basketball,” Gasol mentioned. “Hopefully that may nonetheless occur, however she was that significant, that necessary to the sport in what she might have meant. So I feel it is on us to have her current and to not let her passing take away from how a lot she might have impacted.”
That is what Gasol finds consolation in now, almost a 12 months after Kobe and Gianna’s dying.
There’s nonetheless unhappiness and shock. He says he won’t ever trip in a helicopter.
“Each time I see one, it simply triggers me,” he mentioned.
However Gasol mentioned he is aware of he’s doing precisely what his older brother would’ve wished him to do: looking for Vanessa and her three daughters, and serving to others be taught from the legacy Kobe and Gigi left behind.
“He cared deeply about sharing his data, inspiring others, touching individuals’s lives,” Gasol mentioned.
Bryant’s wanting to connect with others reminded Gasol of the best way he’d first linked with him. They’d identified one another as rivals early of their careers, as Bryant was successful championships with Shaquille O’Neal in L.A. and Gasol was attempting to get the Memphis Grizzlies over the hump.
Then an opportunity encounter modified the course of each of their lives. In the summertime of 2007, the Bryants occurred to stumble upon Gasol whereas vacationing in his native Barcelona, as he was figuring out of their lodge gymnasium.
“It is loopy how that occurred,” Gasol mentioned. “There have been talks about him leaving the Lakers and doubtlessly getting traded to Chicago. There have been talks about me, too, as a result of I wished to be in a unique state of affairs than Memphis on the time, and the course that the franchise was taking.
“So I mentioned, ‘Nicely, perhaps someday we’ll play collectively. You by no means know.’ In my thoughts, I could not register the Grizzlies buying and selling me to the Lakers. However then, a number of months later, once I thought it simply would not occur, it did. And I ended up with him and the Lakers in an ideal time the place issues simply clicked and got here collectively instantly, and we had unbelievable instances.”
Nevertheless, there was no celebration after the gorgeous midseason commerce, which might end in three straight NBA Finals appearances and two titles for the Lakers.
No, Bryant knocked on Gasol’s lodge room door at 1:30 within the morning and advised him the way it was going to be.
“I landed in Washington that first night time to affix the staff, and after my bodily he got here to my room to inform me, ‘Hey, I am very excited to have you ever. Very comfortable that you just’re right here, however now let’s go win a championship,'” Gasol mentioned.
“I imply, it simply does not get extra clear than that. He made certain I knew instantly the place he stood. There is not any confusion: ‘That is what I need. That is the place I am at, and that is the place I’ll want you to be. Now, are you going to be on it? Are you going to be on board or are you not?'”
Gasol was prepared.
“I wished the possibility badly,” he mentioned. “That was my probability, and I used to be not going to waste it.”
Throughout their first sport collectively, Bryant was much more to the purpose. He fed Gasol early to get him going and infrequently spoke to him in Spanish on the courtroom — so their opponents could not perceive them — and he usually saved up that demanding nature each minute of each sport within the six-plus seasons they performed collectively.
“He might be onerous. There is not any query about it,” Gasol mentioned.
That is good method of placing it.
“There could be instances the place I would need to, like, go put my arm round Pau and inform him it will be all proper,” Barnes mentioned. “As a result of [Bryant] would cuss that motherf—er out in any language you possibly can think about.”
That is how Gasol will keep in mind Bryant as a participant. The grit, the dedication, the direct photographs by means of the media (do not forget that entire Black Swan-White Swan narrative Bryant spun to inspire Gasol to be extra aggressive and bodily?).
However it’s not how he’ll keep in mind his older brother.
“Our relationship gave the impression to be meant to return collectively for some motive,” Gasol mentioned. “And now after his loss and Gigi’s, it simply introduced us that a lot nearer to what he meant to me, who he was, what he supplied to my life and clearly his household and now my household, as I take into account them.
“He was somebody that I will miss for the remainder of my life, however I will have him current in all the things that I do.”